Ever feel paralyzed by indecision? Get out of your head and into your body to make empowered decisions the simple way.
Alignment, Back To The Roots, Body Wisdom, Civilization, Cycles, Evolution, Globalization, Go Inwards, Healing, Modern Living, Mother Earth, Nature, Patterns, Planet Earth, Seasons, Stress, Technology, Trauma
I’m always amazed by the way the macrocosm and the microcosm mirror each other. Let me explain what I mean by this cryptic message by giving you an example… 😉
For instance, our bodies are made up of trillions upon trillions of cells that are so small that we can only see them under a microscope. Together they form this amazing miracle that is the human body. Now imagine zooming out from the planet and into space, further and further away from the Earth, further and further away from our solar system…until the beautiful spheric shape of the Milky Way comes in sight. A whole galaxy, made up of trillions upon trillions of stars and planets.
See what I mean? Many small pieces coming together to build one big, miraculous whole.
So many people these days are stressed out.
They’re overwhelmed by their emotions, their responsibilities, their choices and opportunities (or lack thereof). Feeling stressed out is uncomfortable. So we try to run away and hide from what’s really going on inside. We numb ourselves with comfort foods, alcohol, drugs, TV, shopping, or staying so busy that we don’t have a second to think about what’s really going on.
This behavior is understandable: We instinctively shy away from pain and discomfort. But the problem is that when we keep shutting down our feelings, we miss out on some vital information on what we need, crave and desire, on new ideas and inspiration, on how much we can handle and how we can make positive choices for the better.
So when life gets really, really busy and our insides feel really, really stressed we have to do the opposite of what we instinctively want to do: We need to get back into our bodies, instead of running away from them.
We need to learn to get grounded in our bodies, listen to the sensations and emotions we are having, interpret them, work through them and let them guide us to healthy, conscious choices. That’s when healing takes place – individually and with the people in our lives.
Now here’s where the whole spiel about the macrocosm and the microcosm comes in:
For the last 10.000 years, we as humans have moved away further and further from our home, our mother: Nature. We were seeking more comfort. More reliability. So we began to settle down and use agriculture to grow our own food and domesticate animals. No more hunting, gathering, and traveling with the seasons.
With agriculture came a whole host of new discoveries: Science, organized religion, large-scale politics, trade and money, technology…but with each new solution, it seems, came a new problem: New illnesses, overpopulation, less human interconnection and more digital living, exploitation of resources, global warming, animal extinction. And there’s some old problems that haven’t really budged: Hunger. World Wars. Poverty.
It seems that we thought we could outsmart Mother Nature through more and more advanced technology, more and more sophisticated cultures, more and more civilized living. But I believe that at the end of the day, we have to go the opposite direction: Not further into the digital and technological world, but back to the roots. Back to nature. Back to the natural cycles of the seasons, of night and day, of the waxing and waning moon.
Back to our bodies.
Our bodies are still very similar to the way they worked 10.000 years ago. Evolution moves slowly. They are hardly equipped for the abrupt environmental and lifestyle changes of the last couple thousand years. And our planet is suffering with us.Just as we are stressed out and challenged as individuals, so is Mother Earth.
We can heal as individuals by turning inwards and getting back to the wisdom that lies in our bodies and our emotions. We can heal the planet and the human species by returning to our source: Our beautiful planet Earth.
Now, I’m not saying that we all should abandon our homes, toss our cell phones and go back living in caves. Neither do I suggest that I have all the answers. But what I know for sure is that there’s something very powerful, very healing and very magical about returning to our center. Globally, that’s our planet. Individually, that’s our bodies.
There are very striking connections: For example, once we truly learn to listen to our bodies again, the cravings for artificial, highly processed foods that were grown in a lab start to fade away, and the need for real, organic, whole foods comes back. Once we detox from social media and TV binges, we reveal the need for real, loving human interaction. Once we leave the city and take a breath of fresh air in the mountains or at the sea, we realize how important it is to keep our planet clean and healthy…
And while these things are no fully formulated master plan to save the Earth, they point us in the right direction.
It all starts with a first step, right?
What is one thing you can do today to reconnect to and cherish your body?
What is one thing you can do today to reconnect to and cherish the planet?
I’m highly sensitive. I’m afraid to speak up. I don’t want to hurt or bother anyone. I don’t want to look stupid. I’m afraid of judgement, criticism and confrontations. I’m afraid to take up space and be seen. I’ve learned that being quiet and pleasant is the safest way to behave.
So I did the most logical thing in the world: I joined a public speaking circle! 😀
But not any public speaking circle. One that makes me feel safe and celebrated. (check it out here if you’re interested).
Initially, I wanted to try it out because I thought it might help me feel more confident speaking up in life in general, not necessarily on a stage. But I found an interesting parallel between public speaking and high sensitivity that may well be a huge game changer:
When you’re about to speak on stage to a group of people, you feel A LOT. All eyes are on you, and everybody’s energy is focused on you. That’s A LOT of energy. So no wonder you’re feeling a whole bunch of sensation inside of yourself!
Most people call this feeling fear, panic, terror, anxiety, nervousness. But when you think about it, you NEED this high level of energy on stage so you can match the energy of all the people in the room that are looking at you! You need it…and you can make it work for you.
High sensitivity is very similar: You feel a lot. You absorb tons of different energies from the outside. It’s easy to get overwhelmed and anxious, not just on stage, but in everyday, normal situations. So the approach to become a more confident public speaker is very similar to that of managing high sensitivity:
Especially (but not just) women carry a lot of wisdom, intuition and strength in their bodies. When faced with a challenging situation, we get very lost when we try to work things out on a mental level only, like telling ourselves to “just be calm”. (Did you ever feel like punching someone in the nose when you were really agitated and they told you to “just relax?” :))
So in order to prepare for speaking in front of a group of people, the most important thing is to ground your energy and connect to your body.
You can do so by dancing, breathing or visualizing sending energy into the earth…there’s some really fun exercises and rituals out there to get really comfortable and centered in your body!
As a highly sensitive person, grounding is something you want to do every single day. Every time you feel anxious, overwhelmed, tired, or simply spent the day with a lot of people, talking, socializing, providing customer service, or being in a big crowd. The tools that bring you back to your center are the same ones that can be used to prepare for a public speech.
I love two things about this comparison:
Sometimes, a simple reframe of our emotions can be really powerful, such as changing the label from “fear” and “panic” to “excitement” and “power”. Intense feelings can be scary…but they are also a sign of an incredible amount of life force and personal power. Don’t be afraid to use that power! All you need is some good tools to manage it.
You got this! 🙂
Much love and happy grounding!
The other day I read about a simple, yet fascinating technique to see where your energy center is at in that moment, if it’s balanced, pulling you back, or pushing you forward: Simply stand up straight with both feet flat on the floor, and notice where the majority of your weight is – in your toes, in your heels, or evenly distributed over the whole foot?
I had to try it out right away, and I noticed that my weight was mostly on my heels, meaning I was holding back. Procrastinating on something. And, sure enough, I hadn’t quite gotten around to setting up the opt-in and email sequencing for my Ebook yet…today, after having figured out all the tech stuff and having everything released and tested (check it out here), I checked in with my feet again and noticed a very even, centered stance 🙂
I know that I have the tendency to push, criticize and put pressure on myself, a common theme in the ever present go-go-go mentality of modern society. So what I practice (and write about) most, is slowing down. Putting on the brakes and enjoying the scenery of life…letting go, going inward and relaxing. But sometimes even I need a push forward, through fears, resistance, and convenience. And then it feels great to do it anyway, make progress and accomplish something!
The point here is that life is a continuous balancing act. Every moment of every day we need to work on getting back to balance. Sometimes that means slowing down, sometimes it means pushing forward, changing direction, or staying put. Finding out and acting on what’s needed in any given situation helps us to show up as our best selves and get the best possible results.
However, if we consulted our mind only, we would most likely never stop working! We’d never even sleep, as our lists of chores, responsibilities and not-enough-ness would never end. We would work and rest when we’re supposed to, not when we feel called or inspired to do so. We might feel guilty taking breaks…
Of course, listening to our soul or our higher self is ideal, but what do we do when we’re too stressed out to hear its wisdom? We go back to our bodies.
Our body tells us what we need in very clear terms at all times. It tells us when we’re feeling energized and inspired and ready to get sh*t done! It also tells us when we’re tired and really need a break.
If simply paying attention to our feet while standing can give us important information about our energy center and how to balance it, imagine what kind of guidance we can get from our bodies if we just checked in with them more regularly! Really, we’d always know what we need and want, what we are able to do, and where our limits are; who wouldn’t want that kind of clarity!
Of course there will always be situations when we need to go to work when we’re tired, or when we have to do stuff we don’t feel like doing in that moment…when we have to go against our body’s needs. But our body is willing to work with us. Have you ever noticed that during really stressful times, you were able to push through, get by on 4 hours of sleep a night and get everything done you needed to? And once your first day off comes along, you crumble into a little sad, exhausted pile ready to take naps all day and binge watch Netflix in between?
That’s because your body pushed through for you as long as you needed it to, and waited to demand rest until you had time. What a great friend!
Your body will push through for you when you need it to, but if you feel tired, not excited or even resentful about something, pay attention to that. Don’t push it too hard if you don’t want to severely burn yourself out. Sometimes accommodating your body is as simple as taking a small break, getting a healthy snack or adopting a more gentle attitude. But sometimes, it tells you loud and clear to say no to something, set stronger boundaries, let go of something, or go to bed early today! Trust your body’s guidance.
The more you work with your body instead against it, the more productive, inspired, compassionate and happy you’ll be. So take a deep breath and a moment to check in with your body’s needs – and while you’re at it, say thank you, too 😉
Please share in the comments:
Did you try out the checking in with your feet exercise? What did you notice?
In today’s day and age it is pretty much impossible not to work with computers, tablets, smartphones and other screens and devices on a daily basis. I don’t think that’s a good or a bad thing; I think of technology the same way I think of money: It is a neutral tool that can be used for great accomplishments and the greater good of all, but when used unconsciously and without any awareness and responsibility, it can cause more harm than benefit.
When I work on my laptop or smartphone for extended periods of time, I notice several things: My neck , shoulders and back start to feel stiff and tight. My mind starts racing and my thoughts can’t stop spinning. I start to feel anxious, irritated and ungrounded. I lose connection with my body. It’s like all my energy is up in my head, until I feel like I’m about to explode!
And I think that’s the problem with technology: Most of the information comes flooding in in very abstract ways, as bits and bytes, JPEGs and GIFs, links and posts, images, videos, emails, text messages…none of it is tangible, touchable. The entire Internet is an abstract construct that can only be accessed by our thinking mind – not our body. Which means the more time we spend in this abstract world, the more we lose connection with our body. There’s a huge imbalance here! But the good news is this: Where there is imbalance, balance can be restored…
Here are a few simple ways to stay grounded while working on the computer (or any type of device):
Let me know in the comments below:
Which one of these tips sounds most helpful to you?
How do you stay grounded while being surrounded by technology?
Much love and happy grounding! 🙂
It’s a dark, stormy and rainy day today – one of those days where you just want to cuddle up on the couch with a blanket and a cup of tea. Alas, I had to work today, and even though the fireplace was going strong, it didn’t quite warm up the store. Cool moisture seemed to permeate everything; and customers were nowhere in sight.
On this gloomy Saturday, the card of the day is, very fittingly, Body Care. Fall and winter in general remind us to go inwards, slow down, take care of ourselves and recharge our batteries. A little self-care goes a long way on a day like this!
So I made tea instead of coffee this morning, did gentle Yoga instead of core-strengthening Pilates and took time to have breakfast at home instead of having a snack in the car on the way to work (I know, bad habit^^).
I’m working on an e-book at the moment, and the whole infrastructure that goes with releasing something online. It’s a lot of work and there are so many smaller tasks and bigger projects involved, at times I feel like my to-do list doesn’t get shorter at all, no matter how many hours of work I’m putting in. And I have to be careful that I don’t get stuck in hustle mode – over time, it leads to stress, anxiety, frustration and exhaustion. And I’ve definitely been feeling like I’ve just been spinning my wheels lately!
But this internal pressure and inability to relax is so not necessary. Sure, you have to put in the work to build a business, perfect a skill or finish a personal project. But in the end, you have to love and enjoy what you do. If you infuse your work with stress and hectic vibes, it’ll be noticable in the result. Instead, you want to infuse your work with love, and the end result will be so much more powerful and beautiful!
As with everything in life, you want to enjoy the process. It’s a necessary part of every journey to make space for breaks, slowing down and relaxing. Through taking breaks you are able to stay focused, inspired and enthusiastic – which is part of being productive! We need a mindset shift from judging breaks as “laziness” to valuing them as essential part of any creative process.
So today, I’m taking it easy. I allow myself to slow down and take care of my body and my soul, and I trust that the work will get done in time. I’m taking things one thing at a time, and I’m okay with that! I’m exactly where I need to be.
Enjoy your day! 😃