Why we fall off track…and how to get back on. And stay on! 😉
I’ve been loving creating my (almost daily) videos and I’ve gotten really good feedback, (thank you all!! :)) – but today I need to write.
Yesterday I was talking about the full moon and how the week leading up to it is a time to go inwards, retreat and let go. Well, aside from the stirred up moon-related emotions, I am letting go of one huge thing right now: And that’s caffeine.
I’m gonna be really vulnerable and totally honest here: This is the approximately 50th time that I’m reducing my caffeine intake because it has gotten out of hand again. But this time is different: This time I prepared my body with the Whole30 program, totally cleaning up my diet – and this time I’m ready to ditch the stuff for good.
’cause I’m a certifiable caffeine junkie.
I know it’s a drug that’s socially acceptable, and I know many people who have their cup of coffee in the morning and are fine. So that’s okay! I really wish I was like that…but alas, I can never stick to “just one cup a day”. No matter if it’s coffee or tea, the highs and lows, the “borrowed” energy, it all just burns me out. I get addicted to the stuff almost instantly. And pretty soon that one cup a day turns into “one cup in the morning plus 2 cups of tea in the afternoon” and so on and so on…
So I need to stop. And I’ve known for a few years now that this is not my best habit – but the withdrawal symptoms have always kept me from really following through. I’d be good and have only small amounts of tea for a few days, and then I would get this horrible migraine and get really tired, and so I would turn back to coffee as a “headache medicine” – and the cycle would start all over again.
But, the excuses are starting to dwindle: My diet is super clean otherwise, and I’m really happy with it – but I still break out on my face whenever I have coffee, even decaf; it’s ridiculously clear now where this acne comes from. You could even say that it’s right in my face, if you’ll excuse the pun 😉
My husband is already pretty much completely off caffeine – and he’s feeling great! He still has the same amount of energy as before, just more balanced. So I KNOW it’s possible, and I don’t have the excuse anymore of “Well, he made coffee in the morning and it smelled so good I couldn’t help myself…”
I think this a huge part of the problem is that I don’t trust my body to function properly and get done what needs to get done without caffeine. But, I see more and more examples of people who are doing amazing without caffeine – some of these are the healthiest people I know, the most energized, the most successful and the most compassionate.
So. I. WILL. GET. THERE.
I’ve tried all the tricks to ditch caffeine: Weaning off slowly, quitting cold turkey, taking ginseng supplements, measuring my caffeine intake in milligrams and reducing it slowly. I’ve tried prayer, visualizations, meditation, taking aspirin and drinking tons of water. And I thought after the Whole30 quitting caffeine would be easy – well, it’s not. So I’ve come to a point where I’m realizing that I just have to get through the headaches and the tiredness. There’s just no way around it…
Which brings me to the actual topic of this post (finally! lol): How can we acknowledge our physical sensations and emotions without being super attached to them? Because that’s the whole problem: It’s not the sensations themselves, it’s how we get attached to them, how we put meaning on them, tell a story about them, react to them in hardwired patterns that completely forego the conscious mind. It’s when we give our power away to the situation, throwing our hands up and saying “I can’t deal with this, f**k it, I’m just gonna do X. Whatever.”
And then we sabotage all our good intentions, all our progress so far, all our built up momentum.
I’ve been working a lot with my emotions, and I feel like I’m getting better at observing them, acknowledging them and processing them without getting drawn into a downward spiral of darkness and messiness…trust me, it can get really messy when you allow your feelings to run the show.
Or your headaches or tiredness for that matter. Why am I allowing these physical sensations to run the show? To ruin my plans to quit caffeine, even though I KNOW I will feel so much better without it? Sure, the withdrawal symptoms are strong, intense even, and highly uncomfortable. But strong enough to throw my arms up and say “F**k it!”?
Not this time. Instead of focusing on the painful journey to caffeine freedom, I’m focusing on the goal, the result: How amazing it will be to be free from the drug. To trust my own natural energy reserves again. To completely balance my hormones and my mood and my energy levels. Ahh…I can almost feel it 😉
So keep your eyes on the ball. Focus on the bigger goal. Never lose sight of the result you’re looking for. There’s nothing that gives you as much energy as that. As much focus. As much courage. It’s almost as if you’re looking at yourself from a higher view point, from your Higher Self, from your amazing, accomplished future you.
And now get this: That future you is already inside of you. The potential is already there. You have the desire to accomplish something, so you have the potential. It’s as simple as that. And in the ocean of oneness that is the Universe, time and space are all connected. You are all your ages at all times. Including bad-ass future you.
By focusing on the goal, you connect to this powerful version of yourself. You start to act as if you were already her or him…and that’s how you blast through excuses, discomfort and resistant patterns. And: Know that the more resistance you encounter, the bigger the treasure awaiting you on the other side.
So now when I get a migraine I say: “Wow, I really am THAT powerful!”.
And when I feel super tired and spacey, I tell myself: “This will all be gone when the caffeine is out of my system. Screw you caffeine. I don’t need you.”
And this might be the most powerful realization of all: I don’t need this.
I’m free to choose.
I can’t wait! I know it’ll take a couple weeks. But I will get there, and it will be a super sweet reunion with my natural energy reserves.
Keep your eye on the ball! Focus on the goal.
How do you stay focused through uncomfortable emotions and sensations? Have you ever tried to quit an addictive behavior, no matter if it’s food, alcohol, caffeine, shopping or excessive worrying – and how did you do it?
*taking a sip of my Dandy Blend*
I never thought that I’d meet my soulmate as early as I did. I was 20 years old when I met him, and got married two years later – despite the fact that he’s American and I’m from Germany, and despite an age difference of nine and a half years. Our story has been quite magical indeed, and I’m grateful every day for having this wonderful man in my life.
That being said, manifesting a fulfilling career and financial ease hasn’t been quite as “easy” as attracting my beloved, despite doing lots of inner work on my chakras, my money blocks and my sense of self-worth. Despite using affirmations and visualizations, investing in courses and certifications and being generally well supported by my family and friends. So why is this career part so much harder for me to manifest than the soulmate part?
And I’m saying this from a place of humility, openness and gratitude. I absolutely appreciate what I have – but I also know in the depth of my heart that there’s more…
And I think I may have cracked the code.
First of all, here’s what I’ve already known about manifesting:
So you see, I’ve already known a lot about manifesting. Way more than when I was 20 years old! So what did I do intuitively different as a teenager?
I used the power of music to instantly and effortlessly raise my vibration.
I daydreamed every day as I listened to empowering music, music that made me feel larger than life and like I could accomplish anything.
As a romantic, dreamy and sensitive teen, I mostly daydreamed about finding my soulmate. I dreamed about what he might look like, how we would meet and fall in love. I dreamed of a bearded rock star guy with long hair, a bass player to be specific…somehow I’ve always had a thing for bass players 😉
So when I ran into my now-husband, it was love at first sight. He was everything I dreamed he would be, and even more. (Yes, he is a bass player, has a well-groomed beard and gorgeous long hair <3)
But, back to the music: Even though I’m listening to music all the time, it’s mostly as background or sing-along music. Two nights ago though I listened to a really great CD and played Dr. Mario (I know! LOL) on the Nintendo, simply as a way to keep my hands busy as I was soaking up the music. And that’s where it hit me, that that’s the way I effortlessly and intuitively manifested my soulmate – and that I could use this technique again to manifest whatever else I want in life.
It’s this simple combination of vivid daydreaming with the high-vibe inducing power of music. And it doesn’t matter what kind of music it is: Whatever makes you feel empowered, strong and like a total bad-ass works 🙂 The only important thing is that you’re 100% present and really listening to the music – it doesn’t work as well when the music is just in the background or your listening while you’re driving or doing chores.
Look at it as an active meditation/daydreaming practice with your favorite music playing. Sounds pretty cool, right? 😉
Obviously, I still have to experiment with this. But I’ll be sure to make it a regular habit again and to let you know what results I’m getting 😉
My current affirmations are this:
“I know and trust that the money I spend comes back to me manifold, guaranteed, easily and effortlessly.”
“I am attracting two new clients for my copywriting business in the next 6 weeks. They will be inspiring and passionate people who are happy to pay me because they can feel that working together is for the highest good of all.”
Well, let’s see what happens!
What do you think of this idea? How do you use the uplifting power of music in your life? What’s your favorite high-vibe music? Please share in the comments below 🙂
Much love and rock on! 😀
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I know of people who claim that they haven’t cried since they were a kid. And a recurring piece of advice is to “just let it all out, just cry it all out”, cherishing the cleansing power of tears.
Me on the other hand? I cry all the time.
It’s kind of embarrassing actually how “close I’m built to the water”, as we say in German. Sure, I cry during movies. I often cry when I have a really bad migraine. Or when I’m really upset. And when I’m about to share something especially vulnerable, I often can’t hold back the tears – and decide rather not to talk about it and spare me the runny red nose and my partner the awkward atmosphere.
Yes, I do understand the healing power of tears cried after a long emotional drought. After holding them back for years, decades. There are tears that need to be cried. But for me, I sometimes feel like the tears only act as an amplifier to something that doesn’t really have to be that intense, or long-lasting. I often feel like crying and its aftermath of red eyes and a stuffy nose only prolongs a resolution. For example, I will feel better about the situation, and then I look in the mirror, realize that everyone around me can see in an instant that I’ve cried – and I’ll feel embarrassed, ashamed and down again.
Isn’t there a way of crying that doesn’t leave a visible mark?
Isn’t there a way to acknowledge my feelings and express my thoughts that doesn’t need an intense physical reaction?
I guess, as in so many cases, prevention is the best cure. Expressing your emotions takes practice and regularity. Just like you have to brush your teeth every day and wash the dishes after a meal, you need to cleanse your emotional and energetic body regularly. Ideally once a day. Because when you let your unexpressed thoughts and suppressed emotions build up over long periods of time, they will become stronger and stronger, harder and harder to control – and then it only takes a seemingly small incident to end up in tears. Or in saying things you wish you could take back. Or in embarrassing anger fits.
It’s definitely a work in progress for me not to let build things up too much…finding balance and emotional release is an ongoing quest.
But since we are all short on time these days, I want to share with you a few simple and quick rituals to release built-up energies every day. Seriously, these activities only take 5-10 minutes each – some even less!
What do you think of these daily cleansing rituals? Which one are you most interested in trying? Do you have any releasing techniques of your own? Please share your experiences in the comments below 🙂
Wishing you much balance and harmony! ❤
PS: My Ebook From Overwhelm To Inner Peace has a whole chapter on emotional balance. Check it out here – it’s 100% free!
I once read a story about a white researcher hurrying through the African planes to his research destination, pushing his native carriers to walk as fast as humanly possible – until at some point, they simply stopped and refused to move on. When asked why they wouldn’t walk any further they replied: “We’ve been traveling so fast, we need to wait for our souls to catch up before we can move on.”
This story instantly left a big impression on me, and I think about it often. Like this week:
On Monday my husband and me made our way to the airport to fly all the way to Germany to visit my family for Christmas. Even though the 10-hour flight and following 2-hour train ride went smoothly, I felt pretty spacey during the fist 24 hours. Of course there’s the physical exhaustion from the long travel, the time difference and the lack of sleep – but I also felt like I hadn’t really arrived yet, like part of me was still in California. I felt very unsettled, almost nervous, and like a foreigner in my own home country.
My soul obviously still had to catch up…
After 13 hours of sleep, a decent breakfast and a walk outside in the cold winter air I started feeling better. I’m feeling more grounded again, and like all my parts have come back together and into alignment. I feel like I can focus on the present moment again. I’m really here now.
So often we rush through life, not taking the time to process the past and really arrive in the present. Mentally we’re often already at the next task when we haven’t even finished what we’re working on in the moment. The older I get, the more I feel like the whole story of multitasking is more harmful than beneficial: We can’t really do two or more things at the same time; rather, our point of focus goes back and forth in millisecond intervals. Which means, we’re never really focused on anything. This whole process costs us a lot of energy and can cause us to lose touch with the present, become more stressed out and less productive.
If instead we can bring our full attention to one thing at a time and properly complete our tasks, we get better results, feel more fulfilled, more content, and less anxious. At least, that’s the case for me!
Of course it’s not always possible to complete every task in one sitting. Often we have to split up projects into multiple smaller steps, or something comes up unexpectedly that requires our immediate attention. But even then, it’s simple enough to mentally close one chapter, take a deep breath and make space for the next task.
Another great tip is to take a moment to get centered when you’re moving or driving from one destination to the next. When I park my car at work in the morning, I like to sit in the car for a couple minutes before I go in. Perhaps I’ll eat a protein bar, check the weather or read a short inspiring article. That way, I give myself a couple minutes to fully arrive at the new place so I can be fully present at work. It only takes me a couple minutes to get centered after a 20-minute commute – after traveling 8000 miles over 18 hours it takes a little bit longer to fully arrive 😉
We often think we don’t have time to take mini breaks throughout our days, but really, those little moments of tuning in can make us so much happier, so much more creative, stress resistant and productive.
My mum’s favorite analogy comes from a poem by the German writer James Krüss: He talks about a man sweeping the streets, saying: When you look at the whole long street ahead of you when you first start your day’s work, it seems like an impossibly large task that’ll take you forever to complete. But when you take it one broom sweep at a time, you’ll soon look back and realize that it wasn’t so bad 🙂
Take is easy this holiday season, and don’t forget to savor the moment! 😉