I know of people who claim that they haven’t cried since they were a kid. And a recurring piece of advice is to “just let it all out, just cry it all out”, cherishing the cleansing power of tears.
Me on the other hand? I cry all the time.
It’s kind of embarrassing actually how “close I’m built to the water”, as we say in German. Sure, I cry during movies. I often cry when I have a really bad migraine. Or when I’m really upset. And when I’m about to share something especially vulnerable, I often can’t hold back the tears – and decide rather not to talk about it and spare me the runny red nose and my partner the awkward atmosphere.
Yes, I do understand the healing power of tears cried after a long emotional drought. After holding them back for years, decades. There are tears that need to be cried. But for me, I sometimes feel like the tears only act as an amplifier to something that doesn’t really have to be that intense, or long-lasting. I often feel like crying and its aftermath of red eyes and a stuffy nose only prolongs a resolution. For example, I will feel better about the situation, and then I look in the mirror, realize that everyone around me can see in an instant that I’ve cried – and I’ll feel embarrassed, ashamed and down again.
Isn’t there a way of crying that doesn’t leave a visible mark?
Isn’t there a way to acknowledge my feelings and express my thoughts that doesn’t need an intense physical reaction?
I guess, as in so many cases, prevention is the best cure. Expressing your emotions takes practice and regularity. Just like you have to brush your teeth every day and wash the dishes after a meal, you need to cleanse your emotional and energetic body regularly. Ideally once a day. Because when you let your unexpressed thoughts and suppressed emotions build up over long periods of time, they will become stronger and stronger, harder and harder to control – and then it only takes a seemingly small incident to end up in tears. Or in saying things you wish you could take back. Or in embarrassing anger fits.
It’s definitely a work in progress for me not to let build things up too much…finding balance and emotional release is an ongoing quest.
But since we are all short on time these days, I want to share with you a few simple and quick rituals to release built-up energies every day. Seriously, these activities only take 5-10 minutes each – some even less!
- Keep a journal and write in it every day. The entries don’t have to be long. Simply allow yourself to “let it all out” on paper once a day. Variations to classic journaling include dream journals, gratitude journals, writing about Tarot or oracle cards or a daily practice of writing down the way you want to feel and what you want to attract and manifest.
- Take short, but deep breathers throughout the day. Stop and take three deep breaths whenever you’re feeling worried, anxious or stressed out. Or try this highly effective and relaxing 5-5-7 breath: Breathe in for the count of 5, hold for the count of 5, exhale for the count of 7. Repeat this cycle 10 times. That’s approximately 2 minutes to feeling more relaxed and centered!
- Meditate daily – even if it’s just for 5 minutes. And if you think you don’t know “how to meditate”, simply sit down in silence, close your eyes and observe your thoughts and sensations. That’s all that’s to it! No need to “empty your mind” – it’s about observing without judgement. Building awareness. Being gentle with yourself. Daydreaming. You could also try repeating a mantra or using a focal point such as a candle flame, a mandala or a photograph of an idyllic landscape.
- Use your morning shower as an overall cleansing ritual – not just for your body, but also for your soul. As the warm water washes over you, visualize any stuck, dark energies or built-up emotions being washed away and sent down the drain. You may set an intention such as “I am allowing this water to wash away everything that’s not serving me anymore”.
- Say a prayer or an affirmation. Just make sure you don’t rush through it mindlessly, like it’s just another chore on your to-do list. Oftentimes a prayer only takes a few seconds – but be sure to be fully present during this short amount of time, and you will be able to quickly reconnect and refocus. Use prayer or a certain affirmation as your spiritual and emotional anchor throughout the day.
- Practice Donna Eden’s Daily Energy Routine. Donna Eden is a famous energy healer who has created a short sequence of simple exercises that balance, cleanse and strengthen the energy body. It may seem a little funny at first, but it only takes about 5 minutes and you’ll quickly notice a difference! Check out a video demonstration here.
- Try Yoga, Qi Gong or Tai Chi. These physical exercise systems are specifically designed to work not just on the body, but also on your energy system. 5-15 minutes a day are ideal.
What do you think of these daily cleansing rituals? Which one are you most interested in trying? Do you have any releasing techniques of your own? Please share your experiences in the comments below 🙂
Wishing you much balance and harmony! ❤
PS: My Ebook From Overwhelm To Inner Peace has a whole chapter on emotional balance. Check it out here – it’s 100% free!