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I’m sitting here by candlelight, listening to the rain pouring outside, grateful for our gas stove that allowed me to make a cup of coffee with a percolator…my husband was sweet enough to wake me up this morning, as our power went out and my alarm stayed silent. But, it’s a peaceful morning, and the only thing that dims my mood is that our internet connection is out…
After putting it off for a couple weeks, I finally started working on my opt-in sequence last night. There’s still a few confusing things about the whole technical side of it, but I finally figured out how to make it as easy as possible on myself without making it look really lame! 🙂 I even drew the “Go for it!” angel card yesterday morning, so it seemed like I was all filled up with inspiration and ready to go…
But alas, the little work session I had planned before going to my day job this morning ain’t gonna happen, because there’s no electricity, and no internet.
Sure, I could rush off to a cafe and get some stuff done before work there, but I really don’t like the idea of a) rushing in the morning, and b) trying to focus and get in the zone in a loud, crowded cafe (It’s Saturday morning, after all). So I decided to stay home and just journal a little bit. It’s still productive!
Still, I can’t help but wonder about the mysterious ways of the Universe. Yesterday all the signs were on “Go”, and today I’m held back by technical difficulties. My thinking mind can’t help but try and make sense of this situation: Is this my punishment for procrastinating too long in the first place, holding me back now that I’m all fired up? Is this a lesson in trust and patience? Is this simply a coincidence that has nothing to do with me?
I don’t know what it is with our need for a meaning, for explanations. We try so hard to make sense of everything. We let out a triumphant “Ha!” every time we think we’ve figured something out, made sense of something. We say “Sure THIS is why all this happened!”…but at the end of the day, we only come to a certain point, and from there on out it’s impossible to wrap our thinking mind around the issue. Around the Why and the How and the meaning of it all.
I was talking about this with my husband the other day. A little over one week ago, a devastating fire burned down a warehouse in Oakland that was used as an illegal artist living space. During a concert, the whole thing burst into flames, killing dozens of people that had basically no chance of escaping the maze of wooden furniture and stairs. Three of my husband’s old coworkers were at the concert; only two made it out alive. The “Oakland Fire” has been the number 1 conversation and news topic for the whole past week. The air is thick with shock, grief and pain, and hearts are heavy everywhere in the Bay Area.
As always with tragedies like that, there are all these attempts to explain what happened, what caused the fire, but most importantly, who’s to blame.
“It’s the fault of the police for not enforcing actions around building code violations!”
“It’s the landlord’s fault for not taking care of their building!”
“It’s the artists’ fault for seeking out illegal spaces where they can live, work and party in for cheap prices!”
“It’s the fault of all these rich Silicon Valley people who drove up the cost of living in the Bay Area to such dramatic extents!”
In the end, these accusations don’t help. They add rage and hatred to the already heavy burden of grief. They stir up the emotional fires even more that are still burning even after the actual flames have long ceased.
I’m not saying it’s wrong to seek for a cause. I’m not saying it’s wrong to try and make improvements. But there’s a certain point where we have to accept that we will never be able to fully explain what happened. We will never be able to ensure 100% that no tragedy or catastrophe will ever happen again. We will never know WHY things like that have to happen.
And: It doesn’t help to judge, point fingers, seek revenge, and blame.
We can’t cover our grief with blame and hatred and think we’ll get over it with rationality and scapegoat-ing. We need to make time to work through our emotions. There’s a time for anger and rage, but we also have to allow space for grieving, understanding, and ultimately…acceptance. We can work through our emotions and investigate the causes and take any action humanly possible…but after that, when we have reached a certain point, we just have to hand the rest over to God, or the Universe, or the whatever power you believe in.
And this goes for everything in life: for dealing with a huge tragedy, working on a career, seeking a romantic relationship, battling a disease, or simply dealing with a power outage at an inconvenient time. We humans have amazing abilities and skills. Our brains and minds and bodies are true miracles! But they can only go so far. And it bugs the hell out of the ego that there are these limitations. We can either get frustrated and stressed out by it – or we can choose to always do our best, accept our limits, and let God take care of the rest.
And so it is.
I’m sending all my love and light to everyone who has ever experienced great loss, heartbreak, and this feeling of helplessness…which is basically everyone on this planet. Know that you’re not alone! Ever.
Today’s reading is a beautiful message of healing. The Healing card in combination with Surrender (reverse) highlights the importance of letting go in order to allow a healing to take place.
As long as we hold onto our hurt, heartache and pain, we allow these feelings to dwell in us. As long as we keep stirring the flames and adding more flammable material the fire continues to burn. But if we just let the fire be and let go of the need to control it, it’ll slowly, naturally burn out.
I’ve been drinking about two cups of coffee a day, which may not sound like a lot, but it is for my sensitive body. Caffeine is a very addictive substance, and I don’t like being so dependant on it that I wake up with a headache when I don’t have my cup of coffee in the morning! But, I’ve slipped back into the habit, and it’s hard for me to get out of it because of the intense withdrawal symptoms. At the same time, it’s hard for me to just accept what is and not beat myself up for having started drinking coffee again in the first place…
It seems like such a meaningless situation, and it probably is – but for some reason, it keeps bugging me to need so much caffeine, get grumpy when I don’t have enough, get headaches, and wake up feeling rather groggy every morning. It certainly doesn’t help to gripe about it, either!
Through the Surrender card reversed the angels signal me that I’m holding on too tightly to this issue, that I’m trying to force a quick solution, getting frustrated that I can’t just quit caffeine from one day to the next. Feeling dependant and somewhat helpless. You know that voice inside your head that keeps telling that this or that “is just soooo hard!”? Ego talk at its best! 😀
The angels have this incredibly loving, non-judgemental and humorous way of putting us in our place. Today I’m getting the message to stop whining, let go of the negative self-talk and surrender all the healing I need to God and the angels. And I get an amused but loving smile at the fact that this little issue is bugging me so much! 😉
I am already whole and healed just the way I am. By surrendering all my troubles, I’m making space for the angels to work through me and activate my own innate healing powers. All you need is already inside of you, in any situation. Let go of any excess layers and old gunk that doesn’t serve you anymore and allow your inner light to shine through. True healing starts on the inside – trust in your own healing powers and the endless support of God and the angels! 😃
And so it is.
I drew a total of four cards today, many of them cards that have come up quite frequently in the recent past. Certain reminders I can use every day! Certain thoughts, ideas and messages are like anchors to me – as long as I remember them, they ground me, calm me down, make me smile and give me strength.
The message that came through the loudest between those anchors though is this:
As I took a close look at each card today, the detail that struck me the most are the feathers the angel in the Spiritual Growth card is letting go of…they just gracefully slide off her hands, and down to the ground.
I can think of several things I can let go of today: Perfectionism, the feeling of not doing enough for my business, the fear that I won’t be able to sell my old car for as much as I’d hoped for.
I know how important it is for me to stay grounded at all times. One visualization I practice quite frequently is to see tree roots growing out of my feet and down into the earth, and sending all excess energy and stuff that doesn’t serve me anymore to the center of the earth. Then I draw nourishing earth energy up into my body.
The thing that seems really important to me today is to let go gracefully. Instead of coming from this hectic place of anxiety, manically throwing energies, thoughts and emotions down my grounding cord, I want to let go of everything that doesn’t serve me anymore with grace and ease. Today, I’m visualizing old, stagnant energy floating down through my root system and into the earth as gently as feathers!
What this does for me is create an immense feeling of inner peace and calm. I feel grounded and connected, but at the same time light, graceful and soft.
If you imagine anxiety, overwhelm and hustling look like sharp zigzag edges, grace looks like rounded, flowing waves and streaks. Today I’m inviting in this soft, graceful energy, and I’m hoping to infuse everything I do today with grace, love and ease.
Take some time this weekend to let go of some old gunk, may it be physically, emotionally or mentally. Take some time to rest and recharge. We need to let go of the old so we call fill up with fresh energy and inspiration!
Today I’m celebrating the first day of my period.
Hold it right there – did you say CELEBRATING?!
Yep, you heard that right! 🙂 Let me explain…
First of all – and this may be an obvious one – today marks the end of some uncomfortable PMS symptoms, such as migraines and a terrible mood. That alone is a big relief!
I do firmly believe though that pain free, harmonious cycles are possible when a woman is in tune with her body’s wisdom and treats herself with kindness and love…for me, that’s definitely a work in progress, but still I’m not willing to believe the common story that PMS and painful periods are normal and unavoidable.
You see, just as the moon goes through a cycle of waxing and waning, our bodies have more energy in the first half of the menstrual cycle, and the urge to slow down in the second half. If we keep running around and being incredibly busy without ever taking a break, our bodies develop stronger and stronger symptoms to force us to slow down. If we keep ignoring the little nudges, we find ourselves sick in bed with headaches, cramps, moodiness and back pain.
Now I don’t suggest that we don’t go to work or fulfill our regular responsibilities for two weeks out of the month! But a little attention, a little more self-care and the power of our intention go a long way in making our period not only less painful, but even more enjoyable.
(graphic taken from “Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom” by Christiane Northrup, M.D.)
As soon as I started paying closer attention to my cycle and its messages, I noticed something interesting: On the first day of my period, I feel more in tune with my feminine wisdom than on any other day. I feel graceful, light and full of compassion for myself and others, and my intuition is peaking.
I take this day to slow down and pamper myself. I don’t do yoga or exercise and I indulge in warm and nourishing foods my body wants to eat (Chocolate? Muffin? Mocha? Pad Thai? Fennel Tea? Chicken Tacos? Yes, please!). I paint my nails, give myself an oil massage and take a hot shower. I take it slow, and I pay close attention to my inner voice that is just overflowing with insights and wisdom today.
This morning I felt the urge to buy an essential oil to support the process of turning inward and letting go. I found this beautiful blend, and I thought about how powerful scents and smells are in helping us get grounded and release old gunk. Why is that so?
Our sense of smell is one of our most primal senses, and it is connected to the root chakra at the base of the spine. The root chakra is our connection to the earth and of a beautiful blood red color. Surrounding yourself with comforting scents (essential oils, incense, scented candles or apple pie baking in the oven) is a great way to connect with this energy center, get grounded and start sending some excess energy downwards.
We women are lucky that once a month our bodies have this built-in cleansing and grounding mechanism. There is so much joy in supporting this process by practicing some extra self-care on these days. (I don’t know about you, but I always welcome an excuse to slow down and take it easy!)
I know we often curse at our period and the challenging week before it…but if we could just see this part of our cycle as a sacred time of introspection, intuitive guidance and graceful letting go, we’d be well on our way to healing not just our bodies and our monthly cycles. We’d also be taking back the power of being a woman, embracing all of her parts, all strengths and weaknesses, the darkness as well as the light. We are only truly powerful when we are complete, and just as the moon dwells in its shadow side for part of the month, so do we. And that’s nothing to be afraid of: We can make it a phase of beauty, inner wisdom and unconditional self-love.
*This post was first published on http://www.energiesinmotion.com on July 11th, 2016
When we hear about “letting go” and “surrender”, it can be easy to think about defeat, giving up, and weakness. However, I often see the advice “Let go and let God” on bumper stickers, and the Oscar for the best original song in 2014 went to the song “Let it go” from the Disney movie “Frozen”. So there’s gotta be something to the whole idea of surrender, right?
Let’t talk a little bit about the difference between letting go and giving up.
I think letting go, or surrendering, means that we stop fighting something that is inevitable, and stop trying to control something that is out of our control – wasting precious emotional, mental and physical energy in the process.
For example, imagine you are struck by a nasty cold; you’re feeling miserable, tired, achy, and you have to spend the day in bed. The overachiever in you may want to pop some pills, drink a triple shot of espresso with lemon and go to work anyway. The drugs may help you to make it through the day, but the next day, you’re feeling even worse! And now you really have to stay in bed. For two whole days instead of one. And it takes twice as long to get over your cold. That’s what can happen when you let the fighter, the perfectionist in you run the show.
Giving up in this example may look like this: You wake up feeling sick. You feel sorry for yourself and complain all day. Instead of chicken soup and hot tea you drink soda and eat potato chips all day, for comfort. You sit in front of the TV and watch trashy reality shows until 2 am instead of reading a good book and going to bed early. Giving up on yourself like that has an inherently negative quality to it: “I’m feeling bad, it can’t get any worse, so what does it matter what I do today”. You’re most likely not going to feel much better after a day like that…
Surrender on the other hand has a positive energy to it: You realize that you have a cold and need to stay in bed for a day. Even though you don’t feel too good, you choose a positive attitude, you really take it easy and take care of yourself. You get lots of sleep, consume light, warm, healing foods, take a hot bath, and relax. You try and make the best of the situation, knowing that when you “work with the cold” and get lots of rest, you’re gonna feel much better quickly.
When we fight something that’s inevitable, we waste precious energy. Perhaps we worry about something that is still far away in the future and that we cannot influence at all just yet. Perhaps we’ve done everything we can to prepare for a certain event, and we still worry about what else we could do. Perhaps we complain about and resist something that simply needs to be done, such as paying your taxes or sitting in traffic after an accident on the freeway.
When we give up, we see ourselves as victims. We believe that life just happens to us, and that there’s nothing we can do. We settle for less, and we not only accept things that can’t be changed, but we also ignore opportunities for when there IS a way to make changes. We basically give all of our power away.
By surrendering, we accept what is inevitable, and trust that everything happens the way it’s supposed to be. Usually, when one door closes, another one opens up – just because one path doesn’t seem to work out, that doesn’t mean that there isn’t another, even better way for you! By letting go of our attachment to the outcome and our need to control the uncontrollable, we open up to seeing greater opportunities and receiving the really good stuff.
It takes a lot of trust to let go of our worries, our inner control freak and overachiever – and sometimes, surrendering means accepting and acknowledging especially those critical voices inside and out that we’d rather ignore. In that sense, the letting go is a deeply spiritual path. It requires and teaches not only trust, but also patience, compassion, kindness, understanding, resilience and creativity. Once we let go of an inner or outer fight, we make room for new ideas, creative solutions, and beautiful miracles to enter our lives. To get back to the example of the cold: As long as we “fight” the infection, we allow a negative attitude to enter our minds and hearts, and turn our body into a war-zone. But when we meet an illness with love, kindness, patience, understanding, and the willingness to regain balance, we can help to awaken our own inner healing powers.
What is something you can let go of today? The need to control a certain outcome? An old grudge you’re holding against someone? A limiting belief about yourself and the world? An inner resistance about certain everyday chores? Pride? Uncertainty? Worries and fears?
Surrender comes in many forms: forgiveness, relaxation, slowing down, gratitude, acceptance, humility, compassion, a new perspective. What is something you can let go of today that’ll save you precious energy and ultimately make your life easier?
Here’s to letting go! (If you like, you can even sing the Disney song here ;))